Barbie and Ken always seemed to me like a role model for shallow, entitled, rich kids. Now she’s supposed to be a feminist icon? Hmmm. Lest we forget, Barbie’s absurd “physique” has been the basis for body shaming, anorexia, and a host of insecurities for girls who wanted to be just like her but couldn’t measure up. How could they, short of plastic surgery? And even then…
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Regardless of anyone’s views on Swift’s music or even her social views, it’s come down to a very simple and primitive equation: If the “other side” likes her, we don’t, and if the other side hates her, we love her. If you’re on the left and don’t like her music, there must be something wrong with you. If you’re on the right and do like it, you’d better not admit it.
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Here's the truth of the matter: Perfectionists are not born, we’re made. We’re intolerant of our own mistakes because society has conditioned us to be that way by being intolerant of us. In fact, we’ve taken the initiative to blame ourselves in a desperate attempt to escape the blame of others.
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What causes perfectionism? Why do some people strive for unachievable goals, setting themselves up for failure? Maybe it's because they've already been told they're failures so often they feel the need to prove their critics wrong. Or maybe they're scared to death those critics are right.
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You may have noticed an interesting phenomenon on social media: Positive posts – focusing on accomplishments, milestones, and well-wishes – get a lot of “likes.” But posts that involve complaints or personal struggles get far fewer. You might think that people just don’t want to be exposed to negativity. And, as we’ll see, you’d be right. But there’s more to it than that.
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All thoughts are created equal… as long as they remain thoughts. It’s when they become words or actions that they become dangerous, especially if we fall into the trap of substituting polls for evidence and peer pressure for common sense. False, mean, and defamatory declarations aren’t the same as wise and true words; destructive behavior isn’t the same as constructive action.
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